If your spouse was unhappy with little things about you would you try and change for them?

Ok the bottom line is if i did something i i knew irritated my husband and he told me then i would try and change and take the criticism on board. I wouldnt throw a strop i'd try and get on with it. For example if he told me to lighten up a bit i'd try and be chirpier. But when i asked a Q on here to the effect that my husband basically bored the pants off me, was not at all passionate, never surprised me, did not have a funny bone in his body and was very quiet and serious, all i got was "why did you marry him", try and be spontaenous, dress up for him, tell him he's wonderful. Hello it was like he's the one who's losing his personality and im the one who has to dress up for him to make him passionate, im the one who has to compliment him in order to get a compliment back and im the one who has to be spontaenous for him to ignite a bit of passion. Whats the point in that, i mean thats still me doing it all and him acting like a puppy and taking my lead. Why cant he take the lead and initiative sometimes. It always him thats made to feel the victime, i get people saying the poor lad is putting a roof over your head. Again nothing to do with it, i work full time also, i cook all his meal, lunches, tea's, wash and iron but i dont see anyone noticing this. What do i have to do to actually make him have a bit of get up and go and a bit of life to him. I come home and in the same dull dreary voice i get "howya love" i feel like rolling my eyes to heaven and screaming, change the bloody record or say it with a bit of zest in your voice